Make Some Noise During Sex

For many years I worked as a Labor and Delivery nurse, helping to guide strong women through their birth experiences. I was surprised to find that in the midst of doing this incredible work of birthing their child, they were censoring themselves and trying to keep silent. This did not serve them well in the intense work and whole body experience of labor. I was always encouraging mothers to moan and groan or make whatever noise release felt good for them, as they worked with their bodies to bring their babies into the world.

It often took quite a bit of coaxing to get the women to vocalize. They didn’t feel it was acceptable or okay for them to make noise. This is because so many women have been conditioned to be silent or to be quiet in general. And not just with pain and discomfort, but also when their bodies are in movement, action or pleasure.

This idea parallels with sex.

Women often censor themselves in their experience with pleasure and passion by not giving themselves the freedom to make noise. It is natural and normal to be vocal with the sensations you experience during sex. Allowing your body to express itself audibly can be powerful and usher in more erotic energy.

Explore the idea of allowing yourself to connect your voice with the feelings in your body.

Give yourself the freedom to express what your body is experiencing. This may also help you be more present in your body.

The term for this is copulatory vocalizations.

Scientists have found that sexual noises may enhance pleasure. Pleasure is not something that you must keep silent about, it is not a secret you have to keep! Additionally, making noise may also serve as non-verbal communication and positive reinforcement with a partner. So…

Moan, Scream, Talk, Whisper, Sigh, Groan, Cry, Hum…

Get curious about giving yourself permission to make some noise.

Breaking The Silence

My heart has always been drawn to connecting with women, whether it be family, friends, or patients. I chose to begin my nursing career in labor and delivery more than 30 years ago because helping women was my favorite. I then had three daughters of my own, which basically turned my life and home into all things girls, and more girls!

This long time tug on my soul — to connect with and encourage girls and women — is why I left my nursing clinical position earlier this year to pursue the passion of my heart: to teach and speak to women, especially about sex, intimacy and parenting our children through their growing sexuality. I have been doing this “on the side” for the last three decades, but now I am ALL in!

Throughout my many years in healthcare, I have repeatedly found myself stunned at the silence surrounding women and sex. It's heartbreaking that so many parents remain quiet and uncomfortable having conversations with their children about their bodies and sex. You can often hear me say, “Silence is the enemy” when it comes to sex and sex education. I want to help break that silence!

Every time I speak, many women come up afterward with questions, problems and heartache over their sexual lives. Time and again women of all ages tell me they have never, ever talked to anyone about their concerns, uncertainty, confusion and frustrations concerning sex. There is a vital need for women to have someone to talk to and hear from regarding the right information about how their bodies work as well as the newer science around female sexuality and ways for them to enjoy and experience pleasure.

This is my passion! I want to break the silence with education and conversation — for women and for our children. I want to help move us toward understanding ourselves, seeking answers and obtaining fruitful information. I feel strongly that knowledge leads to confidence. Confidence leads to opening conversations — conversations that matter.

Let’s talk about SEX!