Are There Different Kinds Of Orgasms?

Are there really different types of female orgasms?

People constantly ask about the validity of differentiating between orgasms such as: clitoral, G-spot, A-spot, blended, uterine and on the list goes.

Honestly, even the scientists cannot agree on the answer to this question, so let's just say there isn't one "right" answer. There is not one orgasm that is “better” than another. It is good to remember that orgasm is a sudden release in sexual tension, and it can be brought about in a myriad of ways. Also important to recognize that the context in which you have an orgasm influences your perception of the sensation. 

Here are some things we DO know to be true about female orgasm:

Women are fabulously unique and diverse and report varied experiences with orgasm. They are all normal.

Women can experience orgasm differently depending on where they are being stimulated and experiencing arousal.

The clitoral network is larger and more involved than most people understand and likely plays a role in many or most genital orgasms through direct or indirect stimulation.

The vast majority of women do not orgasm with intercourse or penetration alone. Using specific pleasure techniques can increase the chances of orgasm with penetration.

Women can enjoy different kinds of sensations at different times of the day, month, year, and season of life. 

Women experience pleasure very individually and also experience variety within their own experiences with orgasm.

Women may ejaculate with an orgasm and may experience squirting unrelated or related to orgasm.

Orgasm may feel small or huge; like a whisper or a hurricane: intense or gentle, more like a lapping wave on the shore or a tidal wave out of the sea. There is a large scale to draw from and anywhere it feels on the scale is healthy and normal.

A woman’s vulva or vagina is not the only route to orgasm. 

Women report highly pleasurable orgasms from breast stimulation, having their toes sucked, while fantasizing or pleasuring their partner orally, for example.

Women have reported orgasms in which they did not feel pleasure, for example during a period of depression, during sleep or exercise.

My overall encouragement for women is to focus on the pleasure they experience rather than try to categorize their orgasms. Learn to express, experience and enjoy!

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The G-Spot

Is there a G-spot?

The reality is - it isn’t really a “spot.” It is not all alone on its own, but a connected part of the clitoral pleasure network.

The G-spot area appears to be where the urethra, vagina and an internal portion of the clitoris come together. Likely, it is made up of spongy erectile tissue. This area only becomes distinguishable when a woman is aroused and the area is engorged with blood. 

There is no magic “button”

Researchers continue to be mystified in attempting to find an actual spot. So, with that in mind try to set the goal of finding it aside and just relax and have fun experimenting. Figure out what brings you pleasure in your own body.

In a recent study on the topic by OMGYES, about 2/3 of women report that it attaches to the vaginal ceiling (the upper wall of the vagina). That would be roughly about 12 o’clock when a woman is lying on her back. It is about 2-3 inches into the vagina. What was interesting however, is that about 1/3 of women report that their G-spot is “on the left, right or bottom wall or the location ‘moves’ from day to day.”

Every woman experiences pleasure differently and all are NORMAL.

The degree of sexual sensation in this area varies widely from woman to woman and can also vary within the same woman. Factors such as arousal level, time of the month and season of life may come into play regarding the variance. So, for some women, this may be a real focal area of pleasure, for others, not so much.

If you are trying to find a G-spot area, most often it responds to massaging pressure that is persistent. It can be manually with fingers, or with penetration of a penis or a toy. When using finger(s), you’ll want to firmly but gently use a “come-hither” curl motion. Try not to focus on finding a spot but rather stimulate the whole erogenous zone inside the vagina. As you become aroused, you might feel a slight increase in firmness to the tissues as they engorge with blood. You also may want to press a finger or two up against this region and hold it there. This area is not as sensitive as the clitoral glans, so it can usually tolerate firm, persistent pressure.

Positions that seem to provide the best stimulation to the G-spot area with penetration are woman-on-top positions and rear-entry positions. Remember you are attempting to provide persistent stimulation to the upper wall of the vagina (or wherever you have found your region to be located). Orgasms with G-spot area stimulation may or may not result in ejaculate of some clear fluid from the glands that exist in the spongy tissue. This is normal whether it happens or doesn’t happen.

When you hear the term blended orgasm, more often than not this is referring to a combination of g-spot and clitoral stimulation. In other words, two pleasure points being stimulated at one time. Some women find using pleasure techniques with penetration a helpful way to stimulate G-spot regions.

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The Clitoris - It's a Network!

*Fun fact: The word clitoris is thought to come from the Greek word, kleis, a key.

It’s the key to unlocking pleasure

When asked to identify this 3-D picture model of the clitoris network, (pictured above), most people give answers like “I have no idea” or “a tulip emoji,” or even “a wishbone.”

This model provides some much needed insight into the shape and 10-centimeter size of the pleasure center for women.

Yes! It’s an entire NETWORK

Here are some facts about the clitoris to help you understand the entire network. As you read along, keep looking back to the 3-D model for reference; this will help you get a better understanding of where all the parts are as well as where they connect.

• The clitoris is actually composed of many parts, ALL of which can play a role in pleasure.

• The clitoris is a network of erectile tissue. It has as much internal erectile tissue as a penis does externally. Because it isn’t visible from the outside, many don’t know it is there! All of this erectile tissue can respond when aroused.

• Due to the design of the whole clitoris it takes time to warm up and become aroused. Studies are clear that most women require 12-20 minutes or more of arousal (warming up activities) to reach orgasm.

• The clitoris has thousands and thousands of nerve endings.

  The primary Function of the clitoris is PLEASURE

• The visible part of the clitoris on the vulva is called the glans or head. Sometimes it is referred to as the “love button,” because for many women it’s the most sensitive part of the clitoris. The glans is protected by the hood. The glans is attached to the clitoral shaft that runs just beneath the surface of the skin.

• The shaft is composed of erectile tissue and is extremely receptive to sensation. It forks and divides like a “wishbone” with branches. These legs of the clitoris extend deep within the tissue of the vulva, and split to straddle the urethra and the vagina. To be clear: The clitoris extends INTERNALLY all the way to the base of the vaginal opening, meaning you have sensation points from the tip-top to the very bottom (pun intended).

• The internal part of the clitoris is connected to the glans and shaft by two “spongy-like” bulbs of erectile tissue. These bulbs engorge with blood and increase in size when sexually aroused. The more aroused, the more increase of pleasure points internally with penetration or external pressure.

important keys to unlock ALL the pleasure

Every women is different. Every woman may desire different stimulation, and every woman is normal!

In other words, some women really love direct stimulation to the glans or head, while some women find that painful or too sensitive. Some women enjoy stimulation to the hood but not to the glans directly. And some enjoy penetration or massage/pressure to access all the internal nerve endings within the network.

This is all normal (Do you hear my theme here?)

There isn’t a right or wrong way -- or better or best. It is all about what each individual woman enjoys and what brings them pleasure.

I do think many women -- and most men -- simply do not understand how vast the network is. So often all the focus is on the glans or “love button.” If the glans brings you ALL the pleasure you desire, wonderful! However, what many women find as they explore stimulating other sensitive parts of the network is that there may be multiple ways to feel pleasure and different ways to orgasm.

I frequently get asked questions about the G-spot, so let’s use that as one example.

The G-spot is part of the clitoral network

It is not some spot on its own, it is a connected part of the network. This area is a clitoris cluster that attaches to the vaginal ceiling, Made up of spongy erectile tissue, it doesn’t have nearly the number of nerve endings as the clitoral head. Most often this area responds to massaging pressure that is persistent, (think: come hither motion) after a period of arousal has taken place. For some, this is a real focal point of pleasure; for others, not so much.

Again, different experiences and all normal

My encouragement to you is to get to know yourself and your body more and more. Help yourself and your partner figure out what brings you pleasure. Have fun in the process. Don’t be afraid to explore and experiment and laugh and moan along the way. This knowledge about the clitoris network may open up a whole new arousal world for you. Then again, it may not. Either way, you are normal.

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