My partner wants to try ______ (fill in the blank) and I am not comfortable with that. Do I have to do it? How do I handle this? My answer is NO...AND.
Feeling desire spontaneously or in advance is not required to express your sexuality in a way you enjoy or to have “good sex.” The truth about desire is that there is more than one style or pattern. It is normal for partners to have mismatched desire styles. It doesn’t mean something is “broken” in one partner.
Good communication is one of the keys to a nourishing relationship. Talking about the topic of sex is one area where many people seriously struggle to have open conversation. The fact is that it is absolutely normal to have to discuss and negotiate the many facets of sex - whether that’s frequency, preferences or changes.