Music is proven to have a very powerful effect on our behavior. Music is also known to increase our focus. Using our sense of hearing for pleasure, by connecting with music sensually can be a potent aphrodisiac.
Feeling desire spontaneously or in advance is not required to express your sexuality in a way you enjoy or to have “good sex.” The truth about desire is that there is more than one style or pattern. It is normal for partners to have mismatched desire styles. It doesn’t mean something is “broken” in one partner.