Let's Talk Quickies
Let’s talk “Quickies!”
Intimacy with your partner can look a million different ways and a quick sexual connection is certainly one of them.
A quickie is the term given to sex that is just that – quick.
There are a lot of seasons in life when you only have 5 minutes to get it on and 5 minutes is better than nothing. A brief sexual encounter can infuse your relationship with a spark of sexual energy. This energy helps keep the two of you connected to each other until you have time and space for a longer intimacy date.
Quickies don’t have to be the best sex of your life
In fact, they probably won’t be. It’s best if expectations are reasonable and the focus is on bringing your bodies together and kindling your erotic energy. This means keeping the focus on pleasurable connection, a little fun and a lot of affectionate playfulness!
Limited time equals minimal foreplay or warming up activities. This likely means that not everyone may orgasm (especially women). Agree ahead of time that this is okay for both partners.
Orgasm isn’t necessarily the goal here
Absolutely awesome if it happens, and absolutely okay if it doesn’t.
As is often said, timing is everything. There are times when your arousal may be speedier, such as after exercising or earlier in the day. Engaging in a quickie at these times may help increase pleasure and chances of orgasm.
Sometimes, you and your partner may have different ideas about what a quickie looks like. This is normal. If you have never talked about it, take some time to communicate with each other about what feels pleasurable and what doesn’t when you’re taking things fast. You might want to use this post to jump start the conversation or try one of these 24 conversation starters for couples. Together, come up with two or three scenarios that feel comfortable, feasible and fun to try! Ideally, this is an open-ended conversation that you will circle back to often and at different seasons in your relationship.
Think outside your typical sex framework
If intercourse is your usual sexual go-to, read up on these four techniques to increase pleasure and orgasm for women. Or what about something new? Meet up in the shower with these tips, or try keeping most of your clothes on, or just using your hands (Here are few finger techniques women might like). You might consider adding a toy, like a vibrator to get the sensations and blood flowing more quickly. Use your imagination and make it hot or just have fun!
